It’s that feeling you get deep down within your gut. You clench your stomach holding so tight that you feel like your flaws are going to burst away from your body. You feel as if you are a tiny creature, a bug, trapped in a huge web. Everyone stands around you, their eyes following you as if they were the spiders and you were trapped in their web. Watching, listening, waiting. I sat in my seat with my cute head looking down to my legs hoping that when I looked up they would all go away. The voices and the staring began to get to me and that’s when I snapped. I crawled into my shell never to return… until now.
A lot of us know what is is like to have that feeling. You become anxious thinking that everyone is judging because you are simply either “fat”, “thin” or “weird”. They taunt you in the school ground every moment that they get until you either leave and hide or until you simply prove them wrong. Today in society that is exactly what every young (and old) men and women need to do. You need to prove them wrong!
We’ve all heard the stories from each generation of the different insults that broke each and every one of those beautiful souls to pieces but it is becoming much easier to stand up and say three simple words. I am bold, fierceand beautiful!
Believe it yourself with a five simple steps to love yourself and prove to each and every one of those bullies that you are perfect in every possible way that you can be.
1. The mirror will no longer be your worst enemy!
It is easy to wake up in the morning, have breakfast with a coffee or cup of tea, have a shower and walk out the door. Most of us either look into the mirror and say “great, another day in hell looking like a piece of shit” or don’t look in the mirror at all in fear. This will no longer happen!
By simply writing on a piece of paper (or a few if you believe it can be possible) things to help you believe in yourself. Writing things such as “I am beautiful”, “I can be the best”, “I am fierce in these sexy clothes today” and “I am such a hunky spunky man/woman” can easily brighten your day and even put a smile on your dial. Sure, it seems crazy and just plain absurd however when you stand in front of the mirror and say loudly “I AM BEAUTIFUL” you create a positive energy within yourself and carry that into society and into the public!
2. Place yourself into positive situations that help lift your mood.
For those who are bullied for being either “too fat” or “too thin” for societies standards and those who are bullied for “wearing clothes that are outdated/not in fashion/make you look crazy”, going shopping can be a bit daunting. Why not find a class in your area for a low cost of $10 that will lift your spirit. Yoga allows someone to relax, focus on breathing and list the positive energy around them. Zumba classes are also a fun way to feel better about life choices so put on those cute little pink or blue converse shoes, dress up like you’re from FAME and get kicking. It is great for both men and women of all ages!
3. Give yourself “me time”.
Sometimes it is nice to rug up on the lounge or in bed in a warm blanket with a hot chocolate/coffee/tea and just watch a movie you have longed to watch/haven’t seen in ages or watch your favourite cartoon show that makes you giggle. Don’t bother with The Notebook or A Walk to Remember regardless of how much you adore the movies, if they make you cry they are a no no! Just let yourself laugh until you can’t stop laughing any more.
Or why not make “me time” into “us time”
by inviting over a few friends or your best friend to watch a few movies. If you are feeling self conscious grab the yummy fruits and treat yourself to a slight dip of melted chocolate. YUM!
4. GIRLS! Every once in a while doll yourself up!
There is no harm in putting on a bit of mascara, blush and lipstick (or a heap) to make yourself feel more lovely if you feel the need to wear it. If you put that make up on and you feel on top of the world, then you are on top of the world! Be as crazy or as simple as you wish until you feel like you are glowing!
The last and final step -
5. ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE YOU AND YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
There will always be somebody who is jealous of an aspect of your body or clothing choice. You are bold, fierceand beautiful; you just need to walk into the direction that allows you to believe it!
Thankyou so much to DAMNED’s newest contributor, Timmie.